The Work

They look alike, they often travel together, and they are not the same thing. Here is a no-shame breakdown of the overlap between BPD and complex PTSD, and why the distinction matters.

Your body says run, fix it, fight it, text them right now. Here is why feelings feel like emergencies, and how to sit with one without letting it drive.

Nobody calls you dramatic, and inside it is chaos. Here is what quiet BPD can look like, why it gets missed, and why your pain counts even when nobody sees it.

Nobody warns you about the stretch between leaving the wrong rooms and finding the right ones. Here is how to survive the lonely middle, and keep building anyway.

For years, when someone hurt me, all I had was rage. Then something shifted. I started seeing the pain behind the mask of the people who hurt me, and compassion took the place of the fire.

Yesterday, they were your whole entire world. Today, you can't stand the sound of their voice. Here is what splitting really is, why it isn't stupid or flaky, and what to try instead.

The neuroscience behind why one unanswered text can wreck your whole day, and why your brain is not broken.

The word manipulative follows people with BPD everywhere. Here is why it is wrong, and what is really happening underneath.

The anger is fading and it feels terrifying. Here is what it actually means when you start to feel compassion for the person who hurt you.

This is where it all begins. Blogging has always been the heart of what I do, the place where I go deep, get real, and refuse to water down the truth about what it means to live with BPD in a world that wants you smaller.